It sounds terrible, and it is terrible.
Self-kindness doesn't happen on its own, but it is definitely something we can strive for and accomplish. The four ingredients of achieving self-kindness are about nourishing different aspects of our lives.
Ingredient #2: Nourish your psyche. Your emotional wellness is just as important as your heart, lungs, and muscles. Get rid of every syllable of negative self talk and practice gratitude instead. Did you know that it is biologically impossible to be grateful for something and feel sorry for yourself at exactly the same time? Stop keeping a mentally tally of all things wrong in your life, and get going on an action plan to make things better. If you feel your mental health needs a more substantial boost, speak with your healthcare provider, seek counseling, and create a support network. Again, you're worth the investment.
Ingredient #4: Nourish your surroundings. Clean, de-clutter, and organize your home and other spaces where you spend your time. Make them bright yet cozy and a reflection of who you are. Surround yourself with things that make you happy for no other reason than they make you happy. This includes inanimate objects such as candles, stylish cushions, or children's artwork, but it also includes people... rid your physical spaces of ill-disposed people.